helping people. is it worth it? should it really be ????????????honestly, i don't know. of course, when some one is in need of help and it is within our capabilities, we should try to help them without expecting anything in return. but helping people that only gives them conveniences? forget it. first, they don't need the help. second, they won't appreciate it. third, they'll only make use of you the next time. mom says to help them we can, cos we won't know when we will need their help. frankly, now i can't think of any occasion, but i admit that if i can think of it, i wouldn't be needing help. so that's not a valid reason. but what i really feel is that even when we need help, do they look like they would want to help? when they do help, they'd be expecting something in return. whatever favours you did them earlier on count for nothing. why bother? we've helped them enough. enough work, enough times. taking care of their kids when they were here, bringing their luggage back for them only to have them throwing all away so it came to nothing, helping them buy of all things sanitary napkins for other people, bringing in stock for their own people... all of these, were really not very urgent or desperate needs for help. that's why they never appreciate it, and they only make use of us all the time. i am not stupid, i know they are making use of us and they happen to be those thick skinned people who have no qualms about making use of us until we reject them. they've made use of dad, now of mom. why are mom and dad so nice to them? why bother? i wouldn't give a hoot. i'd just say no. if you don't start, they won't bother you as much. but once you start, it'll never end. they'll keep taking advantage of you. when will mom and dad learn? or, when will i understand whatever it is that i'm missing out on? if someone tells me the right thing, will i listen and accept if i don't like it? posted by Yee 11:28 PM . . .
